I am a 37yrs old single lady, who works in a multinational company in Port Harcourt. I live alone and by the grace of GOD, can conveniently provide for myself as I am the last child of my parents and my older siblings and doing perfectly well on their own.
Everything seems fine with me from the outside, but I am gradually loosing it inside of me.
I am the go to person among my friends and extended family members. Everyone wants to collect something from me, but no one among them is willing to give me as little as their genuine likeness for me.
When I am around, they act like I mean the world to them, chanting fake praises and hype at me, the moment I walk away, they start back stabbing and look for means to ruin my personality.
This was how a close relation of mine ruined my 2yrs relationship with lies on the day of my introduction. My so-called man left and I later discovered he got married to the lady my cousin introduced to us to make our outfit for our introduction.
I feel so empty and alone in this world.
My parents are dead, so my elder brother and sister don’t even have my time, I can’t reach out to them, as they have their own family matters to attend to. Where do I go from here?
Is it possible to find true and loyal friendship in this world? I am depressed. I feel I don’t belong here any longer.
There are times in our lives when will feel down and out, like the world is crashing down on us and we feel like we are all alone in this world by ourselves. It happens, because we are humans.
My dear friend and sister, stay away from anyone that is not ready to genuinely stand with and by you. I honestly think you don’t need such people in your life.
Your man that left you for a clothe vendor is just someone you were never meant to be with, it is good that he left when he did, please don’t beat yourself over his behavior.
I don’t see any good coming out from someone you have been with for 2yrs, and would rather believe another person’s story over yours. He is not your soul mate please, rejoice that he has left you for good.
I will also advice you reach out to your siblings from time to time, no matter how occupied they may seem, I am sure they would be excited when you either visit or share your challenges with them.
Please don’t allow depression set in my dear sister, life is full of good and bad surprises. You are an amazon. You can tough it out! I am presently routing for you sis.
Heyyy, I just read your story, and I am lost for words, but I’m already here so I will force myself to speak.
First of all, family is everything! I know you think they are busy, but your siblings aren’t too busy to hear you out. A whole last born like you. You could very much arrange a meeting with them. Online or physical. This is so that you can atleast have them know how things are with you. So whenever it gets tough, you won’t feel alone, or empty. Who knows when you get to talk them, you will find that their lives aren’t any better, or they could even be worse.
As for those so called fake hypers, honestly ehn, you could confront them with a new attitude. Not a rude attitude per se, but tell them without words that you are much smarter than their pettiness and that you are higher than their hypocrisy.
Also, I’m not saying you should be stingy o, but reduce the way you give. Yeah, maybe then you’ll draw your real real close to you. And yes, people will talk. Let them waste their spit. Just try to do things differently and live above them.
And also, I don’t mean to preach, but have you heard about Jesus??? That man is my one true friend, and he can be yours too.
There is a reason people have pets, some for the main purpose of friendship. Let me State that humans are the best of friends a human can get, that is if you can get the right one. Humans have learned to take pets as their friends that won’t back bite, that they will see their invested time in and all.
Story cut short, I will advice you to hit the gym, create a gym goal, relate with people at the gym and relate with them for the sole purpose of training other things will grow naturally just be patient, this will take another position if you have a pet at home.
And if you believe in any spiritual media, before it happens in the physical it already happened in the spiritual, get closer to whatever you believe. Don’t be good to people because you know them but be good to people because it’s who you’re. The least expected to will just come around.
Stay strong
I just read your story and I am sorry you have to go through all of these. You don’t need a lot of people around you to feel happy, reduce your circle gradually and focus on things that makes you feel good. It could be movies, music, dancing, reading, just find a hobby to help you distract your mind from these issues. Wish you luck my sister.
Dear friend, just read your story. Such a pity that some of us have to go through the worst situations in life, but trust me, you are better than alot of people .. But it’s not over, this only shows you that the world is filled with good and bad humans.. A situation you have control over if you want to.. Filtre your friends, filtre your relationship among people… Never be too opened and keep your plans to yourself, trust no one but deal with people on benefits of doubts.. Lastly move closer to God He is the only one who will never let you down… That peace you are looking for, He alone can provide that, not humans…. Have a blessed day ahead… Sending you warm hugs❤️
Baby girl. This is not the end and this too shall pass. I know that loneliness feeling cos I am single and stay alone too. You just have to be happy. I don’t give sadness a chance. Say no to depression. And please, talk to your siblings, especially your sister.. Jesus loves you.