Hello beautiful ladies. I have 2 issues bothering me. There’s a friend of mine in the hostel who I’m close with. So, her coursemate started getting close to her which I don’t have a problem with since I can’t be her only friend. So, I noticed this friend of hers is making it seem like a competition between us. I really don’t get like ” who’s competing with you?” I want to know the best way not necessarily cut them off but just reduce the time I spend with them. I can still be calling my friend on phone to talk with her but I don’t want any physical meeting with this lady and I also do not want her in my space.
2. There’s a lady who is close to this friend of mine who I’m about 5 years older than. She used to call me aunty but I notice she’s trying to call me by name. I want to know if I’m overreacting or not and the best way to tell her off if she’s being disrespectful. Thank you all
First, like you suggest, I will advice you give them some reasonable distance and space, if your friend feels more comfortable with her course mates, but if the opposite is the case, then you don’t need to sacrifice your friendship for her course mates, discuss the issue with her. Anyone who is trying to live a competitive life with you, has a complex, it is best you avoid such a fellow.
2ndly, I think you should not be bothered about who calls you by your name or uses honorifics, especially on campus. If the young lady is not disrespectful, don’t be bothered about whatever she calls you. I think you should only be bothered, when she becomes disrespectful.
I go with Peacemaker