My name is Janet, I am a banker in my early 30s and going through a messy divorce. I married my husband as a virgin. I have never been with any man but him until I was raped. I didn’t know anything about orgasm, climax or what have you because i have never experienced it. 8 years of marriage with a miserable sex life. i have two children from my marriage.
“It happens that we travelled to my husband village during Easter period. While in his country home by 1 am in the night our house was raided by armed robbers a gang of 7 members.
“It was a very terrifying experience, after collecting all the valuables at home, the leader turned to rape me. The leader tied my husband to a chair, tore my clothe and went on to show me his manhood that he will use it on me
“I was frightened, i begged him and cried but he wouldn’t listen. It was a rape that cost me my marriage. As the guy was entering me, I was supposed to feel pains but that wasn’t so. I felt a kind of electrifying sensation that I have never felt in my whole life. I screamed oh my God, as he started pounding on me I didn’t know when I was holding him hard and begging him not to stop to the amazement of others, I was enjoying being raped by a criminal
“I was told I was screaming very hard when I wanted to cum. Yes, I had my first orgasm through rape and since then my life hasn’t been the same. The robber took me two rounds which I came both times. I don’t know what happened, if it was my village people that pursued me, but all I can say is that I haven’t had such with my husband. My husband gave me the beatings of my life after the robbers left.
‘He called me unprintable names, i am a prostitute, he didn’t know I was an Ashawo. He can’t marry an Ashawo. i was hospitalized for two weeks as a result of that incident and his beatings
“My husband left me at the hospital and travelled back to our home. i was damaged. how could such a thing happen to me? who was responsible for me enjoying being raped and even Cuming as a result of it?
“How could i even enjoy such act of cruelty on my body? these were the question i kept asking myself. When i got discharged i met a divorce papers waiting for me to sign. I tried begging my husband, involved my parents but he swore not to let go
QUESTIONS FROM US PLEASE…🙏🏻
1. IS HER HUSBAND RIGHT FOR TAKING SUCH EXTREME DECISION?
2. WHAT DO U THINK IS THE WAY FORWARD FOR THIS COUPLE?
3. SHOULD THEY GO THEIR SEPARATE WAYS?
In fact, the best is them going their separate ways. The man could have taken that decision without beating her. She enjoying the bang in the presence her husband that was tied was real insensitive. The man doesn’t need her at all. She is whatever name given to her by her husband
You have a point for saying she made a mistake admitting she enjoyed the sex in front of her husband and the man beating her. But I will disagree with the name calling and divorce. The husband is at fault here. Remember he married her a virgin.
This is her first time experiencing such in her entire life. I really think the husband should be concerned about his own sex life and performance.
I share in your opinion
Forgive and forget and learn to do better with her on bed
The woman is not to be blamed at all for this. First of,it was an unexpected encounter. Secondly,the man never took out his time to satisfy her or even asked her for once if she was satisfied with their sex life. Thirdly,she got married a virgin and has absolutely no idea what an orgasm is. So the man is totally wrong to beat her up even up to the point of hospitalizing her and abandoning her there. It is wrong to hit a woman no matter the circumstance and he is going too extreme to have filed for a divorce.
In my own opinion,i think they should visit a marriage counselor and work things out if they still value the feelings they have for each other. If not,the both of them should move on and the man should take responsibility for the children while in the custody of the lady
They should go their separate ways, it’s not the lady’s fault though, the pleasure was too much she couldn’t pretend. To amount of counseling will take the scenario out of the man’s head. So to avoid further stories they should divorce